Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Love Letters

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I may have created a monster.

My daughter slowly approached me a few nights ago at the kitchen table. I arrived home late from work and sat there eating my dinner, enjoying some conversation with my wife.

Alone.

"Hey, Dad, what are you doing?"

“Just talking to your mom,” I said, well aware that something else was on her mind.

“I’ve been thinking, Dad. Could I get my own email address?”

“Do you really need one?”

“Well, all my friends have their own email and most are on facebook too.”

I waited for a moment before offering her an old, time honored classic.

"If all of your friends jumped off a cliff, would you jump too?”

I knew the answer coming, and the truth is she had me at “hello” anyway. She didn’t even have to bat her eyelashes or snuggle up to me like she did, but it added some tasty icing to an already sweet cake.

“No, I wouldn’t Daddy, but this is different.”

I continued the inquisition, and made sure she knew I would only do it with complete access to her account. She didn’t hesitate. We then spent a few minutes together setting up her address and password. I made her send me a test email to make sure it was working and to store my address for the future. We did the same thing with her mother’s address and a couple of others as well.

All of that happened Monday night.

At 5:15 p.m. on Tuesday, I was surprised to find six emails waiting for me at work. The first one said:

“Hey! How was your day? If you get the chance at work to write me back PLEASE do!"

The other five were small talk about her day at school and a request to go running together when I got home from work. She even sent me one last night at 9:15 after she was in bed, which I found this morning.

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Most of what she wrote was the sweet ramblings of an eleven (nearly twelve year old) girl who’s growing up way too fast. I could scarcely imagine, back in August of 1998, the day my daughter and I would correspond with email. In fact, I’m not even sure I knew what email was back then. It just seems so crazy, but I suppose sometimes, a little bit of insanity isn't necessarily a bad thing.

I do have to be honest, though. There is a nearly unexplained excitement I feel when opening my email and seeing a new message sent from Mary Jordan. It’s kind of like the feeling I remember years ago when hearing on the radio that schools were closed because of bad weather.

It just feels so…so…perfect.

All this electronic messaging with my daughter has created a bit of a problem, however. I just can’t bring myself to delete her emails. I know a day is coming when I’ll have to, but for now I want to enjoy this ride as long as it lasts.

Not sure if that makes me weird or normal or a little bit of both. But, I must admit I haven’t created a monster. It’s just a new frontier for a smitten dad. And, I like it and her.

A lot…




Romans 8:17 NIV:
Now if we are children, then we are heirs--heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ...

12 comments:

S. Etole said...

Your heart towards your wife and children warms mine ... and your telling of it worthy of attention

Jeff Jordan said...

Thank you, Susan, but you're much too kind...

Anonymous said...

You grad my heart and tear came from my eyes...
Tracy Davis

Jeff Jordan said...

Thanks for taking your time to read and comment, Tracy. Mary is a sweet girl...she reminds me so much of her mother...Two great girls...God has blessed me. A lot.

M.L. Gallagher said...

Hi Jeff -- so.... you could save her emails in Word and keep them forever....

I too find your relationship with your children and your wife inspiring. My daughters are in their twenties. You remind me of the preciousness of every moment, every memory, every word and gesture and touch.

Thank you.

and thank you also for dropping in and leaving a note on my blog -- appreciated your presence :)

Louise

PS - love the music playing... What am I that you might know me. Beautiful.

Jeff Jordan said...

Thanks Louise...love the music too...my favorite song

Anonymous said...

How rich you are. The results of your aquiessence brought a triple braided cord to your relationship with Mary. She has access to you -, now, and you are closer and closer at a time when some lose touch. Thanks for sharing something appropriate.
I also liked the music, here at the fitness center at closing time.
Hope you continue to be blessed running and running dates. I was very close to my dad with
letters from college and Navy. No one can take that away. His suicide some would see as abandonment, but I knew my dad and he knew me.
I am ready for life.
Love, Lynne

Laura said...

This is so very sweet, Jeff. Ah, the difference between boys and girls. Enjoy this sweet correspondence. Maybe one day you can give her her emails in bound book as a wedding gift!

Sandra Heska King said...

Loved this. And she's adorable. And my husband always used the "would you jump off a bridge" line, too.

Jeff Jordan said...

Lynne,
Glad you have such fond memories of your Dad. If you keep working out so hard, we may see you at the Olympics one day:)

Laura,
That's a great idea...hadn't even considered that.

Sandra,
Yeah, this is the first time I've had to use the "jumping to certain death with your friends" card...Hope I don't have to use it a lot.

Joy said...

we were just talking about how our kids will be texting us before we know it. and I look forward to that!

Jeff Jordan said...

You know, it's kind of bittersweet in a way...happy to see her growing up and sad to see her growing up too...I just hope she doesn't outgrow her mother and me.